{"id":8172,"date":"2024-05-11T20:46:49","date_gmt":"2024-05-11T17:46:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/?post_type=articles&#038;p=8172"},"modified":"2025-06-19T05:02:25","modified_gmt":"2025-06-19T02:02:25","slug":"familial-support","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/articles\/familial-support\/","title":{"rendered":"Familial Support"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, we will discuss existing assistance for families of people on the trans spectrum and the importance of familial support. If you don&#8217;t have family support, you can turn to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/?post_type=articles&amp;p=2924&amp;preview=true\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">support hotlines<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/articles\/%d7%9c%d7%99%d7%a0%d7%94-%d7%96%d7%9e%d7%a0%d7%99%d7%aa\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">temporary<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/articles\/%d7%9e%d7%92%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%90%d7%a8%d7%95%d7%9b%d7%99-%d7%98%d7%95%d7%95%d7%97\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">long-term<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> housing solutions.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">The Importance of Familial Support<\/span><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Family recognition of gender identity is very important for the self-acceptance process of people on the trans spectrum.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Adolescence is a time of developing an identity and sense of self for all teens, and open dialogue with parents is an important part of that.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a research study<sup class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote \" data-mfn=\"1\" data-mfn-post-scope=\"00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172\"><a href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  role=\"button\" aria-pressed=\"false\" aria-describedby=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-1\">1<\/a><\/sup><span id=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-1\" role=\"tooltip\" class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote__note\" tabindex=\"0\" data-mfn=\"1\">https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/%d7%90%d7%a0%d7%a9%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%98%d7%a8%d7%a0%d7%a1%d7%92%d7%a0%d7%93%d7%a8%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%91%d7%99%d7%a9%d7%a8%d7%90%d7%9c-%d7%92%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%9e%d7%99-%d7%9c%d7%97%d7%a5-%d7%9e%d7%a9\/<\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> about teens on the trans spectrum in Israel, it was found that family support was the most important factor in the teens&#8217; mental health.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes parents feel that if they push away the child&#8217;s trans identity, they can help the child get over their &#8220;gender issues&#8221; and prepare for life. In practice, familial support is important to mitigate the negative aspects of coming out of the closet (such as stigma, oppression, and discrimination), and familial support also helps reduce depression and suicidality, improves self-esteem, and improves the ability to function in various areas (for example \u2013 the quality of relationships and partnerships). On the other hand, studies show<sup class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote \" data-mfn=\"2\" data-mfn-post-scope=\"00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172\"><a href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  role=\"button\" aria-pressed=\"false\" aria-describedby=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-2\">2<\/a><\/sup><span id=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-2\" role=\"tooltip\" class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote__note\" tabindex=\"0\" data-mfn=\"2\">https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/%d7%94%d7%94%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%9b%d7%91%d7%a1%d7%99%d7%a1-%d7%91%d7%98%d7%95%d7%97-%d7%9c%d7%9e%d7%aa%d7%91%d7%92%d7%a8-%d7%91%d7%aa%d7%94%d7%9c%d7%99%d7%9a-%d7%94%d7%99%d7%a6%d7%99%d7%90\/<\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that rejection by family correlates with higher levels of loneliness, depression, and suicidality in trans teens. That is, the more antagonistic family relationships are perceived to be, the higher the risk of suicidal thoughts, and even more, the higher the risk of suicidal behaviors is in people on the trans spectrum. By contrast, the more supportive a family is, the risk of suicidal thoughts and behaviors lessens.<sup class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote \" data-mfn=\"3\" data-mfn-post-scope=\"00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172\"><a href=\"javascript:void(0)\"  role=\"button\" aria-pressed=\"false\" aria-describedby=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-3\">3<\/a><\/sup><span id=\"mfn-content-00000000000013aa0000000000000000_8172-3\" role=\"tooltip\" class=\"modern-footnotes-footnote__note\" tabindex=\"0\" data-mfn=\"3\">https:\/\/www.transwiki.co.il\/%d7%9e%d7%90%d7%a4%d7%99%d7%99%d7%a0%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%95%d7%a6%d7%a8%d7%9b%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%a9%d7%9c-%d7%90-%d7%a0%d7%a9%d7%99%d7%9d-%d7%a2%d7%9c-%d7%94%d7%a7%d7%a9%d7%aa-%d7%94%d7%98%d7%a8%d7%a0%d7%a1\/<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Sometimes it can take the family a long time to accept and reconcile, and sometimes it may never happen. Family members\u2019 responses may change over time, and relationships that were defined by conflict and rejection may change and bring acceptance, intimacy, and support. It is possible that very difficult responses from parents can lead to the safety of the relationship and communication wavering, but positive experiences when sharing with parents may enable healing of the relationship so that the parents are perceived as more supportive and emotionally available.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Characteristics of Familial Acceptance:<\/span><\/h2>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Accepting the child\u2019s gender expression, including the use of the correct name and pronouns.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Open discussion with the child about identity.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Showing affection towards the child throughout the coming out process.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Supporting the child\u2019s identity even when the parents feel discomfort.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Representing the child (for example, with the school).<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Making sure that all family members and surroundings respect the child.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Finding support systems for the child such as community organizations (IGY, Trans Center), individual and family therapy, etc.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Accepting friends on the trans spectrum and allowing them to come as guests.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Belief in the child\u2019s ability to have a happy adult life.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Introducing the child to adults and role models, to show future possibilities.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Overcoming Difficulties in Supporting the Child<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Many parents experience feelings of loss, fear, or broken dreams. It makes sense that parents need time to process the new situation. Successfully coping with the challenges parents face is one of the ways to help children on their own path. It is recommended to turn to other parents and\/or to a therapist or to support groups for parents of children on the transgender spectrum, such as those offered by the Tehila organization or Brit Haleviot.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Even if parents experience challenges and don\u2019t yet know everything about the subject, the most important thing for the child\u2019s welfare is the quality of the relationship. Below are several recommendations for creating and strengthening an open connection:<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Learning \u2013 learn everything you can about gender and gender diversity, it is best not to do this through the children, but to find reliable sources of information through professionals and community organizations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Affirmation \u2013 listen to the child about the significance of their new gender for them. It is recommended to let the child set the pace of transition and choose who they wish to share their gender identity with. This is true for medical gender-affirming care as well.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do not \u201cout\u201d the child without their consent.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Name and pronouns \u2013 it is important to respect the child and use their new name and pronouns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Non-binary pronouns \u2013 for children who identify as non-binary, it is important to ask what pronouns they prefer or pay attention to how they refer to themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">With support and affirmation, transgender and gender-diverse children and teens can live happy and full lives. The most important contribution parents can make is support, affirmation, and strengthening their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Support Frameworks for Families of People on the Trans Spectrum<\/span><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">There are various organizations that support families and parents of people on the trans spectrum. These organizations offer support hotlines, support groups, information, education, and many guidance programs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/leviot.org.il\/%d7%9c%d7%94%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%94-%d7%94%d7%9e%d7%aa%d7%97%d7%99%d7%9c\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Brit Haleviot<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Brit Haleviot is an organization of families of transgender and gender-diverse children and teens. The goal of the organization is to implement support and affirmation of transgender children in families, institutions, and Israeli society at large \u2013 to ensure their well-being.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/leviot.org.il\/%d7%9c%d7%94%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%94-%d7%94%d7%9e%d7%aa%d7%97%d7%99%d7%9c\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To read the beginner\u2019s guide for parenting a trans child.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Brit Haleviot offers the following frameworks:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Virtual and in-person parent meetings, professional lectures, and experiential workshops<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Family meetups around the country<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Activities for children of various ages<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Support hotline for parents<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Contact details:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Whatsapp \u2013 052-3711922<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Telegram &#8211; @brithaleviot<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/alliancelioness\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/leviot.org.il\/%d7%9c%d7%94%d7%95%d7%a8%d7%94-%d7%94%d7%9e%d7%aa%d7%97%d7%99%d7%9c\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Website<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tehila.org.il\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tehila<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Tehila is a support organization of parents for parents and family members of children in the LGBTQ community.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tehila.org.il\/index.php?dir=site&amp;page=content&amp;cs=5067\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Support groups for parents of people on the trans spectrum<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tehila operates support groups for parents and family members of people on the trans spectrum. The groups offer emotional support, guidance, and information for those who have a loved one who is transitioning.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Contact details:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Haifa group facilitator \u2013 054-6880446 (Tami Goldberg)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Givatayim group facilitator \u2013 052-3664052 (Hani Israeli)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Zoom parents\u2019 group, once a month \u2013 052-2483163 (Anat Shauli), 052-4324865 (Karmit Aviram)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Tehila.org.il\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Parents in Pride<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A group for parents of children on the LGBT spectrum in Rehovot. The support group is facilitated and meets once a month. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Contact details:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Phone \u2013 054-5999637 (Anat Baruch Hayt)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/haincubator.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Incubator<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A group for parents of children and teens on the trans spectrum aimed at receiving tools and guidance from other parents, adults on the trans spectrum, and professionals in various fields.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Contact details:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Phone \u2013 054-2647252 (Lahat, leave a message)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400; font-family: tahoma, arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Website \u2013 haincubator.com<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"template":"","source-tyoe":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/articles\/8172"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/articles"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/articles"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/articles\/8172\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8448,"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/articles\/8172\/revisions\/8448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8172"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"source-tyoe","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/transwiki.co.il\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/source-tyoe?post=8172"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}